change of heart?

Glad to see you bitches back with the best medicine of all: honesty.  Ok, I've practically only been with women who have loved me more than I love them my entire life.  I've never been dumped...yet.  Generally, by the time I remotely pursue a woman, her interest is obvious, and it's usually just a matter of dotting the i's.  I've heard a bunch of stuff about what this may reveal about my psyche, and there may be some truth to it, such as that I'm insecure, afraid of love/commitment, yada, yada.  My question is the following however.  All my friends say that I need to be kicked to the side of the curb for once, yet they tell me how shitty that feels and seem to avoid it like the plague themselves.  Pretty much, everyone claims it feels better to love another more, but their actions don't seem to jibe.  So, is it really true?  Should I bother to change?

VF: Oh man.  Rejection sucks.  (As you probably know since you've skillfully managed to avoid it for all of your adult life.)  It's hard to endorse getting dumped because well, it blows.  So, rather than counseling you towards something I can't sell, instead, I'll give you this little metaphoric gem to think about. 

Have you ever gone gambling at an Indian reservation?  (Do they call them Native American reservations now?  Whatever.)  They have all the standard options -- blackjack, craps, poker, rigged slot machines, free well drinks, gambling addicts...  There's nothing wrong with a casino on a reservation.  You sure can have yourself a great time.  But put a little more effort into it and you get  Vegas.  Yep - same standard fare, same chain smokers, but oh, there's so much more!  Bright lights, waterfalls, contortionists, overrated bars, bigger pools, mafia... it just doesn't compare.  If you only go for chicks you're sure are into you, chances are those girls are like second rate casinos -- fine, sure, but why go for fine when you could be ballin'?  Then again, you could also lose all your money and wind up washing dishes in kitchen at Tao.  Loser. 

In the end, if you decide to go for the girls who really make you nervous, you'll have no guarantee of success.  It's risky business, this putting-yourself-out-there-stuff.  But if you don't?  Well, you're guaranteed to just kinda living this mediocre relationship bullshit.   Want more of that?

ACL: Seek out therapy. IMMEDIATELY.